Clothing Trends

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Clothing trends for both men and women are degrading in different ways, and also arbitrary.

Neither gender necessarily looks better than the other in dresses and skirts. In some countries men wear kilts. Historically, shoes with heels were FIRST made for men, and later became a trend for women. During various times in history, men wore robes, skirts and tights. In some cultures, men were expected to be more dressed up than women.

There is no reason why a man who dresses up should be called gay or effeminate, and why mens’ clothes should be so fucking boring. When you go to a wedding, the women all have different dresses but there’s only one shape suit that a man can wear. There is no good reason for this, except that society is telling men they should all be uniform and the same, like the army. The message is that the only thing men are good for is lining up like soldiers and fighting for women and children. Mens’ beauty, and value, should not be celebrated.

Of course, in Hollywood mens’ beauty IS celebrated, but I’m talking about day to day life, for people who aren’t rich. Culture has trained us unconsciously to think of men as soldiers who are meant only to defend us and have no intrinsic interest or value. The same way women can be seen as prostitutes, men are sent to die.

Now I’m not saying that men should “dress like women.” The fact that people might read this and think “Oh so you want a man to look feminine” IS the problem. Being boring isn’t masculine.

The problem is today, we have two affordable choices. Men can wear the same degrading clothes that women wear, which make it difficult to walk and move, or they can wear boring ugly trendy common clothes. In other time periods this was not the choices. You could be a man with flair, color and style, without being thought of as “looking like a woman.”

On the other side of things, womens’ trends are explicitly degrading. Almost everything that is considered “hot” is something that cripples a woman. For example, oversized boobs – this hurts womens’ backs and makes it harder to move around. High heels – makes it hard to walk, run, fight, or defend yourself. We have only barely moved past things like the trend in China where womens’ feet were bound. Any trend that is popular for women is one that cripples them.

Aside from high heels and constricting uncomfortable clothing, women are expected to wear at least minimal makeup at a normal job. This makes someone’s skin get worse over time. It also forces her to spend all this money on makeup she might not necessarily enjoy, and makes her spend TIME preparing her face which is probably fine just the way it is.

It’s one thing to wear makeup for fun – as a man or a woman – and I have no issue with it. But being expected to uphold a trend where you cake your face in foundation each day just so you’re accepted at the office, is degrading. Wearing foundation and makeup every day takes a toll on a woman’s skin, not to mention it takes time out of her day and prevents her from doing something interesting, productive or important. When you add up all the time women spend putting on and taking off makeup just to be accepted in an average setting, you might come up with a huge number over the course of a year. Imagine if that time could be spent, say, writing a book?

But that’s still not nearly as offensive as the “heels” that make people walk like a chicken, or “big fake boobs” that hurt their back. Also, clothes that make it hard to move.

There are many ways to dress up super fancy and sexy without restricting yourself, but they’re hard to find. I’ve been very creative and determined in searching out a wardrobe that is both sexy and functional. And that’s sad — if women weren’t culturally pushed to be crippled, this would be the norm. Compare the way we dress to ancient Egyptians, compare our weddings to Indian weddings, compare our wardrobes to Native Americans. Imagine someone looking back on this in 500 years. They would say “Those people in the 2000’s had no taste.” It’s shameful, really.

Becoming the Enemy

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“To know your enemy, you must become your enemy.”
This phrase took on special meaning for me today as I contemplated the current state of politics, and my propensity to debate and defend what I feel is right.

When I argue about a policy and someone retorts by saying I’m “ignorant” about transpeople, or “racist” – the first thing that pops into mind is how much I love my friends. I have friends who I love dearly who are trans, black, gay and so forth. In some cases we have taken on major battles in our lives together.

I don’t tend to think of these people as my black friends, trans friends, gay friends…… they are just MY. FRIENDS. And that’s it. However, when someone accuses me of racism or transphobia – then suddenly it comes to my attention that they are attacking the love in my heart. Suddenly, I categorize my friends into “trans” and “black” friends because my love for them has been attacked.

I have become the enemy. I have categorized my friends, dehumanized them. Just like the person I’m arguing with. In that moment, my friends are no longer simply people that I love, because they have become “trans,” “black” or some other identity category. The ideology has poisoned the pure love in my heart, at least in that moment, as I seek the language to defend or discuss my point of view.

I feel dirty. Corrupted. I don’t want to put people in these categories. It doesn’t resonate at all with my deeper feelings, but I am forced to think that way if I want to engage in discussions about identity politics.

This leaves me in a tough position: I don’t want to be ideologically pigeonholed or confine myself to an echo chamber. But I also don’t want my mind to be poisoned by language that categorizes people who I love, like meat. I don’t want to become that way.

Language matters. It shapes how we think, and how we feel. The “identity politics” mindset has reigned supreme, because whether we oppose it or support it, ALL OF US are talking about it. Our minds have been conditioned to overthink people’s identity categories, and to associate them with those categories. We can disagree with this mentality all we want, but as long as we are talking about how much we disagree, we’re thinking like them. The ideology and its ‘language’ has infected us all. Such clever marketing.


*Banner photos by Nyack Photography.


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“What is the value of reading fiction?”

I’ll start off by addressing the value that fiction had for me. When I was a kid, I was an avid reader. I would read through entire series in a week or two. I got obsessed with Les Mis and read the 4,000 page version before I was 10. I’ll list some benefits, all of which I realized later on.

1. Empathy & Communication.
I had insight into the minds of the characters. I’m an empathetic person already, but reading really showed me that some people think like me and others don’t, that people want different things… I got a closer view of how they worked things out. It gave me more options for how I might address something, and more patience for others that might see things differently. I felt like the characters were my friends, and cheered for their victories.. so when they acted like idiots and shot themselves in the foot, I still loved and felt empathy for them. Then I was able to apply the same logic when my own friends were horrible to me, and practice forgiveness. I realize now when looking back, that reading a lot probably helped me develop empathy, communication skills and understanding. Not that it was lacking before per se compared to the next kid my age, but being that deep inside other people’s processes must have affected communication.

2. Vocabulary & Grammar.
I had a really easy time writing papers, much earlier than anyone else. I had better vocabulary, my sentences were organized and I understood how thoughts out to progress, intuitively.

3. Values & Inevitabilities.
Watching characters work out tough decisions must have had an impact on my own values. When a character in Les Mis is dying and asks someone to look after her daughter, and he agrees, and then runs away from the cops to avoid a prison sentence that was hanging over his head, so he can take care of her…. and lives in hiding.. these are not easy choices to make but , alas , he made them. My favorite character sacrificed her life, taking a bullet for the man she loved, because he loved someone else and he decided that if she couldn’t be happy, at least he could. Such themes made me think about what love means, what sacrifice is enough or too much, whether she really loved this guy or was just obsessed, what life is worth, how death can come at any time. It forced me to face the harsh realities of life at a young age, which also helped me address things like illness, death, obsession, love and so forth, in my mind, in ways I might not have been able to before.

4. Not taking things for granted.
When you read about poverty, death, illness, divorce, breakups, starvation, war… it’s impossible to take what you have for granted. At least for me. Getting back to empathy again, it also causes me to look at people who have less, in a different light. But that said, it can also afford empathy for people who have MORE, which, for some people, is harder.

5. Perspective shifts.
Speaking of not taking things for granted, I’ll mention that understanding somenoe else’s thought patterns helps with more than empathy. It actually broadens perspectives.

6. Scenery, Beauty, Archetypes.
I’ve had vivid dreams all my life. When reading, I always pictured the scenery and the people being described, and this lent itself to me developing an extremely powerful imagination. My dream life is full of symbolism and I have an innate unconscious AND conscious relationship with archetypal symbols; I often wonder whether this applies to everyone or if mine was heightened by reading so much. My dreams are simply primordial. When I read about what things mean I can hardly believe how accurate these things show up in my art, writing and dreams. It’s uncanny.

7. Hope.
Ever feel like you’re stuck inside your life? Well, I don’t; not even when I’m sick. There’s always another world, either in my imagination or inside a book. I’m not an escapist per se; books bring me deeper into the darker parts of my own mind. But knowing there are other ways to live, other places, other people, other types of relationships…. and feeling like I’m part of them, by reading… it can really lighten my step and put my own petty problems – or even my real problems – into perspective. 

8. Imagination & Creativity.
When you see the same things, same people, same places every day, shit starts getting stale. Books force your mind to conceive of something more, really immerse you in other experience. This enhances perception, perspective, imagination. I am not a fan of video games and too many movies, because they feed people too much. There might be people out there who read TOO MUCH, as in they just forget about their actual life, and I’m not that way (I hardly even read anymore)… but a lot of reading enhances use of the imagination and makes you MORE creative, rather than providing the instant gratification and spoon-feeding of the moving picture.

Misogyny & Misandry

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A friend wrote a post saying she won’t be offended if a man talks to her. She won’t feel like due to the patriarchy, he thinks he’s entitled etc. I completely agree with her, and I find it depressing that this even has to be said. This patriarchy-bashing and man-hating has reached a level of complete insanity.

Men talking to women, men holding the door, men asking you out, being a little determined – so what? Get real people. Masculinity is a REAL force in the world – if you choose not to honor it, you’re living in a fantasy land. Cuckolding entire sub-cultures won’t do you any good; it won’t help you find a balanced relationship. If you want a man who is strong enough to handle you, then stop squandering male expression at every turn.

Unfortunately, both conservatism and liberalism are responsible for this particular modern disaster.

For the record, I’m not anti-religion. However, there is a tendency in some religions, especially more conservative sectors, to want women to cover up. In some cases, forcing them. This is across the board – Christianity, Islam, Judaism. There are sectors that care less about this, and then more extremists and orthodox who cover people up – in some cases, they cover up people of both genders. But there’s a strong focus on ‘modesty’ for women and not being presented as a sexual object, which of course brings to light the problem that it’s ASSUMED that men will otherwise do bad things, think bad thoughts etc; if we present in a sexy way. This makes a sexy woman, or a woman AT ALL – into a kind of ‘taboo.’ Which makes it exciting, titillating, sinful – to get just an inch closer to her and then go home and whack off.

Personally, I’m a married woman very in love with my husband, who is my soulmate. Anyone that has seen his picture would understand why there is no way in hell that I’d want anyone else, and I mean that on every level; superficially, he looks like a supermodel; more deeply, his intelligence and sensitivity is palpable. I am completely loyal to him, and him to me.

Yet both of us enjoy being admired for our beauty, our sexiness. We both encourage each other to wear whatever we want in public. If others want to admire us that’s fine, but we are also compassionate and don’t play games with others or with each other, so we make it clear to anyone we talk to that we’re married and monogamous.

Yet beyond that, why not be admired? It’s a basic human instinct. Knowing I can go out in sexy clothes and the world can be my stage, is a motivator for going to the gym, eating healthy; it also makes it FUN to go out. Usually we go out together.. we have no desire for a ‘separate social life’ – so we make an appearance as a pair. But on occasions where we must be separate, like around work, why not come home with stories about people who admired our beauty? Why not feel good about ourselves?

It’s a human instinct to want to admire others’ beauty and be admired. Some people feel this less than others, which is perfectly fine, but for those of us who get a thrill and connect on the basis of beauty and mutual admiration, and who see life as an art; why not indulge it? This kind of thing – for those of us who want to do it – DEMYSTIFIES the appeal of sexiness, of womanliness – and shows how it’s human. It demystifies the sexual undercurrents in conversation, since there’s literally nothing wrong with lusting a little as long as boundaries are set. Healthy desire leads to inspiration and excitement; breaks the monotony. Honoring the desire to be sexy makes for a more honest psyche, where people aren’t ‘cheating and being freaks behind closed doors’ due to all the repression they force themselves into every day.

If someone WANTS to be modest, let her. Let him. I don’t care. But making cultural rules about it, will never work. There will always be people with high sex drives, with soulful styles, who want to sing like the birds even if they are taken, just because that song and dance is beautiful and beauty is inspiring. There are people who just enjoy being looked at. There are people who are not monogamous. So what?

(I already anticipate the response: STDS! Pregnancy! Yes, these are real issues. I am saying this assuming that in a world with less oppression, there would be MORE focus on how to be RESPONSIBLE about sex, rather than shoving it under the rug and pretending it doesn’t exist, only to have people cheating the system behind closed doors and finding themselves infected and pregnant with unwanted children, which is the real outcome of sexually repressed sub-groups and societies. There are individuals who are pious and are exceptions to this; but forcing it on a wide scale clearly does not work.)

On a wide ideological scale, conservatism represses femininity (in both men and women), whereas liberalism represses masculinity (specifically in men), thus resulting in a need for women to fill that role in lieu of seeking to love and to nurture. To be clear, men also want to love and nurture. But if men are not allowed to aggress, then the average man will devolve into a dependent pussy sucking your titty. That is not fulfilling for any of us.

Conservatism says “men shouldn’t cry” and “women should be modest,” repressing unbridled emotional display and beauty. Liberalism says “men shouldn’t aggress” and “women should not need men,” oppressing very obvious parts of our nature too. It is fine for ANYONE to assert their will, man or woman alike; and if men are socially not allowed to do this, then women end up feeling undesired or unfulfilled by men who aren’t working, aren’t asserting themselves, etc. As for the men, the suicide rates speak for themselves: they feel cuckolded, uninspired, unwanted, ineffective, creepy. Women, this is not good for you either – especially if you’re hetero – but even if you have sons, friends, brothers, coworkers who are male. An emasculated society is a limp world that can’t get momentum, can’t assert, can’t individuate. Having assertive women won’t make up for it, because these women still have an instinctual desire to find lovers, no matter how loudly they insist they ‘don’t need no man.’ Look deeper. Beyond that, if men in society are squandered due to being told they can’t assert their will, can’t “manspread” and sit comfortably, must squash their balls to avoid female wrath – society will have weak links and will perish.

Sexless women and emasculated men are not ideals. It’s fine if individuals express this way, but praising it as some ideal is not the solution to social problems; it is more problematic than human nature itself. People cry, desire, flirt, ask each other out, assert their will, aggress.. your social constructs will not stop them. At best, you will push these acts deeper behind closed doors, where they will come out in extreme ways (rape, cheating, whoring, etc).

All the extreme constructs do is create more divides, oppression, repression and hatred between people, as they identify more and more with this sector or that, in opposition to one another. To speak for myself, I am not “a white, middle class, chronically ill, Jewish, female, cisgendered, bisexual, right-or-left-leaning American,” I’m fucking Erica Xenne, and I will express as such. If all you can see is a statistic, that says more about you than me.

In this world of categories, ideals and constructs, I find that exploring my own nature is paramount. These rules and games will never tell me who I am, nor will they contain me; I have always known this. If you explore who you are, and you express who you are and observe what happens, you learn a lot about the world and it’s easier to see the trends for what they are. That is my theory anyway. Subjectivity and individualism do not necessarily begin and end with serving the self. If you know who you are and assert it, the world shows its true colors in your wake.


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“What if we were never taught as children to associate what we saw, heard or felt with anything particular? What if we weren’t taught to tell time? What if we were allowed to develop our natural impressions of everything around us? How would it be? What if our faculties were much more psychically in tune instead of logical?”

The way culture pans out is a direct result of human nature. Part of being psychically in tune with our nature is feeling the need to create structures and distinctions. Language was what set us apart from Neanderthals and allowed us to survive longer, since their vocal cords were not shaped properly to allow for complex language to develop. It was language which allowed us to accumulate knowledge like “how to build a fire” and pass it down over generations, so that newborn generations wouldn’t have to start over and could acquire more skills. This is what allowed the human species to survive, since physically we are not equipped to defend ourselves and could be taken down by most animals half our size.

Thus language (structure, distinctions, knowledge) was a staple of human society and we built on it, making bigger borders and structures to protect ourselves from predators. Our ancestors did this for us, which now allows us to be born into a fully built house, use money our parents made to buy food, and go to the hospital to get medicines that were created by previous generations so we don’t die every time we get sick.  This allows people like me and you to sit around on our computers in our safe haven, protected by walls that shield us from the elements and from natural predators, with access to food and medicine to allow us to survive, and sit around thinking about what it would be like if we knew nothing. The truth of it is, we would not be here thinking about that, if we had to think about surviving; and if people did not use language to build up cumulative knowledge and apply it, then survival is what we would be thinking about.

That said, I have often wondered if people just stopped talking about race, if racism would disappear within a few centuries. Distinctions like that are pointless, nonsensical and result in holding the species back from reaching its potential. If we didn’t have so many wars we would have more money for space programs to expand, but warring over territory and borders makes sense, as much as it seems we should be past it by now; because species who survive are the same ones who build up power and take down the weaker ones. Racism, however, is nonsensical. It is not natural either; children aren’t racist. It’s an absolutely learned behavior, socially conditioned.

Sumerian Tablets

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*Disclaimer: I am not a Bible scholar or a Historian. I am simply sharing ideas about what I recently put together, due to light researching, and my reaction to it.*

A few thousand years before the Bible was written by humans, a different set of humans wrote very similar stories about our origin, using many of the same names. These people were called the Sumerians. People have recently been translating the Sumerian tablets. The biggest difference in the story is the fundamental stuff: the Sumerian tablets claim humans were created by aliens called the Annunaki who came here to mine gold in order to save their dying atmosphere, and mixed their own DNA with that of Homo Erectus. The God Enki was the most empathetic one, who gave the humans knowledge, but his brother Enlil & the other Annunaki did not want the humans to have knowledge because they needed to use them as slaves to mine gold. The Bible was a tale written by the winners of a war, who portrayed Enki as the devil and Enlil as God, but all the wrathful horror stories written about the bible’s “God” were about Enlil in the Sumerian tablets, who was hated by many humans.

As crazy as that might sound, the Sumerian tablets also contain a lot of accurate details about outer space, all of the planets in the Solar system, the atmosphere, Mars, the Moon, etc; and the information checks out completely , scientifically. There is no way they could have known this without any form of space travel.

So to me, it’s not about whether or not I “believe” the stories about our origin – it’s more that I find the tablets interesting because it begs the question: how did they know these highly accurate details about outer space?

The Bible is utterly uninteresting because it is simply a rewrite — it was propaganda created to paint Enki in a bad light. However the way they went about it was quite implausible; they claimed the God in the Bible was omniscient, omnibenevolent and omnipotent; yet they also demonstrated many evil acts committed by this God.  The Sumerian tablets, at least, have a story that is internally cohesive; even if much of it is likely fictional.

It makes no difference to me if we were created by the Big Bang, God, Evolution, Aliens, or the dreams of psychics, as I will continue to live my life the exact same way regardless, even if any of these theories, or another one altogether, was proven to be true beyond doubt. I won’t buckle to a God that created me but won’t accept me the way I am. I’d rather get cast to Hades or Hell or the nearest black hole.

But I do find a lot of holes in the tales we are told about our past, so I enjoy introducing new theories and watching people come up with holes in those. What I find interesting is that given the evidence, this is a strong case, hard to refute, but that doesn’t mean it’s true.. it’s just interesting that people are generally more willing to accept tales with much bigger glaring holes in them.


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I don’t see the point in discussing political ideology. Why not discuss solutions instead? Who cares which “side” came up with long as it works?

I may be a liberal, a conservative, a libertarian, a fascist, a greenist or a redist.. I don’t lose sleep over it. What matters to me is that I try my best not to spout ideological spewings that I am incapable or unwilling to carry out myself. If my words don’t match my actions, what are they worth?  I’m not saying I’ve been perfect in this area or any other. But it’s amazing to me that most people give more importance to spouting superior verbiage than to who they actually are.

Generally, people don’t think enough about results.  Is it true that black people, women, and others get paid less? Is it true that they are oppressed? Maybe, maybe not.. we could argue about statistics all day.  However it is visibly evident that telling people they are ‘racist’ when they simply disagree about a policy, isn’t effective. It causes more division and anger, and fails to change their mind or reach them in any way. Unless someone is saying blatantly degrading things about another race, calling them ‘racist’ is counter-productive. What does someone hope to accomplish by doing that?

Politics, to me, isn’t an abstract philosophy comprised of high-minded ideals. It’s a discussion of solutions and problems that arise as a result of contemplating my REAL LIVED experience, and that of my loved ones, or people I meet.  My political stances are based on me, my loved ones, and realistic studies and thoughts about human nature, which I apply to actual people in my life, rather than abstracting about what could or should be.


Forum Culture

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*If it’s not worth doing in excess, it’s not worth doing at all.*

By that, I don’t mean that I party excessively. Rather, I am focused wholly on my sense of purpose. I always have my eye on “what the point of it” is, and have little interest in doing “random” things – for distraction, thrill or any other reason; if it’s not part of my larger purpose. Time is the most valuable resource we have, and anything that isn’t moving me toward that sense of purpose puts me off on a visceral level. I don’t gravitate toward “hanging out with friends” if we’re not making some kind of progress, even if that progress is immaterial, such as inspiration, digging into one another for spiritual growth, or challenging each other’s views productively. The people I have spent most time with have always been ‘art buddies.’

For the past several years, I have been drawn to typology forums – Enneagram, Jung, etc – for several reasons. Posting has helped my writing tremendously, and the subject matter, about human psychology, has helped my characters as well as my personal growth. The first few years, I made great progress, some absolutely tangible, some psychological. At this point, I’ve quit most forums, as I have grown as much as I could there and my focus has been redirected toward my purpose.

Then, yesterday, the ugly side of internet culture punched me in the chest. In one of those groups, a video was posted of a physical artist jumping off rooftops etc, with tremendous ease and mastery. He had clearly dedicated his life to this practice. Most people in a group – supposedly aimed toward spiritual growth – condemned him for “wasting his life,” inspiring kids to die, and throwing away God’s gift of life. They called him an adrenaline junky, an addict, psychotic, mentally ill, stupid, crazy, and more. Some even tried to prove his videos were green screened, even though their verity was easily researchable, and his mastery was obvious from watching it.

There are so many problems here.. I don’t know where to begin..
1) People typing on a computer to a screen full of strangers and daring to say someone else is wasting precious life.
2) A forum geared toward psychology where people attribute mental illness to a person who is effectively living their dreams. (There is no shame in mental illness, but this accusation builds false stigma around it, dilutes its meaning and more.)
3) The conflation of “Adrenaline junky” with “Masterful artist doing something with purpose.” (An adrenaline junky is a regular college student getting drunk and picking fights. Or even an intellectual wanker picking fights on the internet to let off some steam. Someone pursuing mastery and meeting his own goals is not a junky.)
4) People who get into a car every day criticizing someone else for doing something dangerous, when the statistical likelihood of dying in a car accident is higher than that of a stuntman dying from performing the art he has trained in.
5) People on a psychology forum believing it is their right to condemn someone else for how they live their life, when the person is not hurting anyone but, on the contrary, is inspiring others as well as himself. 
6) The cultural acceptance of jabbering on the internet at the expense of doing something in the real world, now translating to a CONDEMNATION of people actually walking on their feet and talking to real faces…

I could go on.

This got under my skin for so many reasons. Life was nearly snatched away from me at 16. On my death bed, I accepted that I might die, but I didn’t want to; I still had songs to sing. I still had something meaningful to do, which made life worth fighting for.

I emerged with my voice destroyed, through no fault of my own, and I took tremendous risks and challenged myself ruthlessly in order to rediscover my sense of purpose. Later, I moved to a dangerous city, fought to get by on very little, and sang lead through my whisper, despite my chronic illness. Had I died on the street then, at least my life would have been meaningful. This lesson was hard-learned on my death bed.

If you live your life cowering behind a screen, barely getting by, wagging your finger at anyone who dares step outside your enforced routine…. you are not living; you are undead. That is your choice, and I won’t condemn you, but I will call it what it is – it is zombiehood.

I cannot be part of it. I worked too hard to resurrect the ghost of my voice, to reignite the blood in my veins; to pour blood, sweat and tears into something meaningful. It is impossible, at this point, for me to be bitten by vampires and zombies, as I have already risen from the fucking dead and this is my second coming. I know why I’m here, where I’m going, and why I wake up in the morning. I examine myself to weed out the pointless bullshit standing in my way, and commit myself to dancing with the angels & demons within me. I am not perfect, but I have blood in my veins, flesh on my face and fire in my heart.

What about you? Have you examined your daily routines, your assumptions, your blinders? What is the point of it all, to you? 
Is your SOUL worth fighting for?


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The “oppression olympics” mindset is a real threat to our safety and the integrity of our society. It has already eroded our morals, self respect and respect for others, so our moral integrity is going down fast due to the effects of this mindset taking hold over the last century. Yet people take for granted what we DO still have.. freedom to choose our job, sexual freedom, freedom of choice in many areas.. people won’t realize how important these liberties are until they take them away by trying to force everyone into “equality.” 

What equality really means is oppressing the strong citizens so they can be brought down to the level of the weak, and the only people with real power are those in government. So it ends up being a divide between the well-to-do government and everyone else.

What we want to improve is OPPORTUNITY, but we cannot fool ourselves into believing this can ever be equal without forcing everyone to be the same at the cost of their personal choices. 

The sentiment underlying the current “apologize for your advantages” type of social pressure is that the strong must be made weak so that everyone is equal..except the government, the great Big Brother savior. If you read Saul Alinsky’s “Rules for Radicals,” he outlined the path for this type of ideology to become mainstream: by infiltrating the schools, the media, the government. Hillary Clinton trained with him and his influence is all over Obama’s speeches. What is happening now is not some “stupid accident,” but rather, the result of almost a century of radical leftist indoctrination. 

In the 1920s, Woodrow Wilson changed a lot of information in our history books to underline how horrible slavery was , our horrible slaughter of the Natives, etc. While these incidents ARE GENUINELY awful, slavery and conquest lies at foundations of every country but the other countries teach their children national pride. Here we have been taught for a century to be ashamed of ourselves. And this is why Lincoln’s prediction – that America cannot be defeated from outside, but that we will destroy ourselves from within – is coming true.

Did anyone ever notice that there are no black heroes in our history books? Looking back at paintings and documentation there were plenty of black war heroes, the first self-made female millionaire in the country was black, and there were black governors early on.. and they used to be in the textbooks. They were taken out so that black people would feel like they were never given a chance and white people would feel like blacks contributed nothing of value to the country (of their own volition anyway), and whites would also feel guilty for looking down on blacks and oppressing them. This would create an us vs. them divide that would become impenetrable.. and that is what we’re seeing today.

And the problem is, people are now feeling they aren’t entitled to the things they earn. Is this true… well, I understand the logic behind it: not everyone had the same opportunity. That’s a very easy sell. Problem is, have the radical leftists (meaning, modern liberals).. thought about the effects of this message that we are seeing right before our eyes? People aren’t willing to work hard anymore, to do the hard labor and discipline that it takes to improve.. because they can get more sympathy and empathy – not to mention government privileges, ranging from health benefits to lower taxes to welfare – by having less, and they don’t feel entitled to improve anyway.. everyone will hate them and they’ll have to give giant chunks of their income to a government that spends it on bullshit like war and governors using our tax money to pay off women who they assault to keep them from complaining. 

Motivation has been sucked out of our society, and we are made guilty for feeling entitled to our own earnings. This is the RESULT of the mindset which lead to shaming people for their advantages, earnings and privilege, regardless of the merit underlying the complaint. And people love to complain about what’s wrong, and fix it by shaming other people.. but they don’t stop to think about where this is leading and what good could possibly come of this mindset becoming mainstream. We are seeing the effects, divisiveness, anger, hatred, violence and poverty among the citizens rising up now.. and if that isn’t enough proof that their shaming ploy didn’t work, I don’t know what is. Trump won because people were so sick of being silenced, shamed and belittled for having anything good in their lives or disagreeing with leftist jargon.. people were so relieved to hear “grab her by the pussy” and other such “I don’t give a fuck what you think” attitude, that they voted for this person to be our president. The left wants to believe it’s about racism, and there is definitely a percentage of racists on any side and arguably a higher percentage voting for Trump… but if they actually make people feel like they can be HONEST like I do, they would talk to a lot of people who tell them directly (in secret) that they voted for Trump, but they’re not telling their friends, but the reason is they’re sick of being silenced. It’s not just me either – some major media personalities, including major leftists like Russel Brand, have postulated the same thing and some have even done some research into statistics backing this up.

The left has gotten too complacent since the 60s.. too complacent about their rightness and the “obviousness” behind what they’re saying, without looking at the EFFECTS their mindset has reaped. They need to listen to people respectfully, stop hating and putting down the “other side” and actually WATCH the right wing media they’re cursing at (even though they’ve never actually given it a chance)… they need to wake up.

Now don’t get me wrong.. I’m not claiming that the right, the conservatives or the republicans are “The Answer” either. I had more hope for the left, but at this point it’s a cesspool of ignorance, shaming people for seizing opportunity, creating and honoring divides between people, and applauding weakness. I am not a fan of either “party” or mass mindset, and from the outside, it all looks quite ridiculous.

To be clear, I don’t judge the left for being heartfelt about the have-nots, but I notice that they aren’t thinking about the real living consequences of their “morals” and how they are enacting them and pushing them on society.  The problem with unbridled morality is that people aren’t thinking about the consequences of seeing them through. If there were more careful distinctions being made about the society that would REALISTICALLY result from a certain mindset playing out in full, many people would address these problems in a different way than they do now.  The problems are real, but they are calling out problems and hates and blames and shames instead of sitting down to think about solutions.

Either that or they are busy thinking about who is right and who is wrong (morally) which isn’t as much the question as who is getting hurt and how do we fix that? And a quick-fix solution, like force-taking money from one guy and force-giving it to another, may put a band-aid on the issue but in the long term the consequences of this turn to loss of motivation as a society , expansion of government, more rules, laws and regulations, and less trust in ourselves to pull ourselves up, and more riots.

We would benefit from stepping back and thinking about what has worked historically; what mindset pans out in a timeless way, among people, to lead to social productivity long-term.

Jewish Arguing

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There is something people don’t understand about me that needs to be explained.

When there is a case at hand – I argue it strongly to see if someone else can destroy my argument. This is how I get to the truth.

You could attribute it to my cognitive functions or you could call it 468 truth-telling. It is also the Jewish way. The Old Testament is filled with arguments where one Rabbi says there is a God and the next one says there isn’t, and Jewish rabbis are allowed to be atheists, and questions and challenges are encouraged. For the Jews, Faith is not what they’re after – it’s truth. So, that may seem insignificant since I’m not religious – but it isn’t. It lends itself to an attitude.

In my family, growing up, it was not “disrespectful” to question my parents and prove them wrong in an argument. We would argue back and forth and the stronger argument leads to truth. I even told my father – just because you’re better at arguing doesn’t mean you’re right. The truth stands regardless. The idea was not to WIN the argument (though the competition was fun) but rather, to duke it out until the truth is uncovered.

Jews have a strong business streak, which they have developed due to centuries of persecution and diaspora, and when alone in a new place where everyone hates them and wants to kill them, all they could do was come up with schemes to survive (only the smart/business types survived, the rest were weeded out by the violence). Time is money, and Jews are more concerned with truth and efficiency and making things happen, than turning the other cheek and pleasantries. “Eye for an eye” is the Jewish way rather than “Turn the other cheek.”

The kind of politeness other people have – and also non-committal arguing where they keep repeating that they aren’t sure and being ‘open minded’ and acting like, maybe others might have a point – is not universal, it’s cultural, stemming from Christian nations and their outlook. Jews don’t act polite or half-assed about it – they present their case and ravaging the other person’s argument with EVERYTHING they have in the name of truth.. and this brings out the truth FASTER.

My accountant is more religious Jew. When you call him, you ask a question, he answers, and hangs up. There’s no hello, goodbye. Just answer. If you have two questions, you have to say that when you call. Might sound rude, but it gets to the point.

My family is not quite like that, but his attitude demonstrates how I was raised. No time for bullshit clouding the truth. So, instead of politely and quietly sitting back until everything is figured out, part of the process of how I figure out if something is correct is by arguing about it, seeing what holes come up, and also, seeing if I’m capable of making a strong case. I know I’m decent at arguing, so I can make a case for lots of things, but if people make SUBSTANTIAL POINTS against my case, then that is actually helpful to me.

So me arguing something doesn’t mean I believe it fully, it means I want feedback.  “You argued strongly for something else” is not an argument against any current case I am making.